i'm knocked for six....

I wondered…
(As now days,
I end up ONLY
wondering on
this or that, it
has became my
part time business
now..)

‘Situations’ which made me write this post and wonder too.


1.

I was walking on the lane of my colony and came across one of my old acquaintance.

After talking little bit about studies and all, she abruptly said, “you know, what happened with my relation with Mr. X?” As I usual lack in people’s affairs, I said “NO”. (I even said, “Why am I troubled?” but that INWARDLY)

“Oh, I quit it, you know he stays in the ‘CHAWL’ and even does not have his own BIKE” she continued and kept talking to me on how he was not worth of.

Therefore, I wondered…


2.

My one family friend, (who is year or two younger than I am) called me on phone and asked whether I can meet her. I agreed and allowed her to come up to my place and meet me.

She came and took me out of my house so she could talk openly.

As we appeared in the mall next to my house and took a proper place I the hotel, she started, “Tai*, I am having lot of problems in my relationship with some guy, I thought, you would be the right person to discuss.”

As she went on with her difficulty, I got to know that it was her some fourth relationship (with different-different guys, of course)

Therefore, I wondered more…

(* Tai: - as an appreciated call to elder sister in Marathi)


3.

I came across one of my college-mate on the bandra* platform. While talking about this and that, she whispered, ‘harshada, the biggest problem in my life is “not having a relationship”, as it feels so bad, when there is nobody to call you all the time, pay your bills, roam with you whenever you want’

I wondered more and more …

(* bandra: - suburb in Mumbai)



Here is what I want to say…


I was knocked for six by all these experiences. In addition, kept thinking on what I mean by the word relationship.


You know, whenever I think of the word ‘relationship’, the only word comes to my mind is ‘fulfillment’

We all as individuals are incomplete by so many means, by our thoughts, by acts, by way of living.

Let us take some examples, say Dr. Rani and Abhay bang.

Dr. Abhay had a background for social work but Rani did not. She was brought up in very elite society.

Nevertheless, while understanding Abhay, she got A DIRECTION of her own life and now so many tribal women are being served by her.

That is what I mean by ‘RELATIONSHIP’

It is not just of two people (of different genders) coming together and moving around, giving birth to children, calling each other ‘partner’!

We see so many such examples around us, NARAYAN & SUDHAA MURTY, PRAKASH AND MANDKINI AMTE, BABA & SADHANATAI, P. L. DESHPANDE AND SUNITA BAI, AMRITA PREETAM & IMROZ...AND SO MANY…

WHILE flourishing their rapport, they flourished the world around themselves.

They flourished each other as better human beings.

In addition, more notably, they LOVED each other…and all other things like, possessiveness, anxiety, care towards each other is due to INTIMACY, intimacy to KNOW a person by all traditions.

Therefore, according to me the INTIMACY matters more than anything else does. I personally do not mind even a platonic relationship if the INTIMACY exists.

harshada (1/09/08)